By Vittorio Norman As men, we are conditioned to acquire things in order to build ourselves up as individuals. This is often times a way to get validation from those who have conditioned us in the first place. Indeed, it is these same people to whom we are inclined to brag, when we do achieve it. Ask yourself this: When you get "it", do you enjoy the moment or are you eager to tell someone about it? Realize that removing this validation-seeking behavior is not an easy task. It can be done but it requires a process to happen inside yourself by way of discipline. You have to not care as much, not as a technique, but because you actually don't care. Too many people teach you to fake outcome-detachment because it is something that attractive people "do". They are teaching you to act, basically, rather than fix your inner self. What this results in is supplication inside your mind, even if not evident externally. This will lead to drama, emotional highs and lows (mostly lows), and the feeling that something is very wrong. Rather than success being something to enjoy for what it is, it becomes a means to drag you out of those low-points (which you are the cause of). Dating and meeting women should be natural and not treated as a job. If you treat it like a job then it will become one. People will sense that you want something from them and will resist you as a result, creating more work for you in the process. Right now you might be stuck in a rut and feel like you are going in circles. You may even be taking advice from guys who have gotten good at chasing and whose best advice is simply, "Keep at it, you'll eventually succeed". But you do, and you just don't seem to be improving. And dusting yourself off and picking yourself up is becoming a tiring ritual. Clearly the "no pain, no gain formula" is not working for you and you're losing motivation. It just might be that your subconscious mind is telling you that you're on the wrong path, and is trying to save you from years of trial and error. Consider yourself fortunate that you are able to sense this. This is the first step in you switching out of bad habits and into something infinitely more useful. These are things you can do right now to help set you on the right track: - Drop all obstacle-related thinking and terminology. From now on, when you go out there is no such thing as "c*ck-blocks", "competitive alpha males", or points you HAVE to get to in the "seduction" in order to succeed. Stop thinking this way and just be social and have fun without wanting anything from anyone and you will notice that obstacles will cease to exist anyway. - When you see an attractive woman, don't stare or lust after her. Just keep going about your business. - If things are "slow" in the dating sense, take up the slack with other hobbies. - Stop listening to people who regularly speak in terms of "I got laid..", or "She was so hot..", even if they are successful. - Have a standard for yourself and stick to it no matter what. The days of calibrating to get the girl are over. - Remove all sources of drama. - Stop analysing so much. It's mostly a waste of energy and takes away from the beauty of simplicity. All these can be done right now. There is no training or build-up required. You can start changing things for the better immediately. Copyright 2006 Vittorio Norman Vittorio Norman provides a step-by-step guide for meeting women online, in his latest ebook. His website is located at http://www.onlinedatestrategy.com Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Vittorio_Norman http://EzineArticles.com/?Remove-Excess-Desire-From-Your-Dating-Life&id=396756 cheap viagra
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